7/31/16........AGAIN?!?!

7/31/16

Can we talk about teenagers?  Just for a hot second?

Here’s some information on me:

AF Brat.  Went to 7 schools starting from Kindergarten to Senior.  I now have the most amazing friends EVER!!!  Father, as you know, was super protective:  guns shown (actual shotguns), insults made (go home and take a shower), bouncer like at the front door, etc.  I had a car at 16 which was a present from Deutschland (1973 convertible super beetle—Tabitha).  I learned how to drive her in Shippensburg, PA.  My first job was when I was 17.  At the Log Cabin on Bailey’s Island in Maine, when I was living in an efficiency apartment with my dad.  I was a dishwasher (and a full blown vegetarian) working in a fish restaurant.  I REEKED of fish when I came home.  after a few months I got “promoted” to server…and then that duchebag complained about me “forcing my views on him”…so back to dishwasher and prep-cook (err’one LOVES peeling those intestinal tracks from the shramps!!!).  Then on to working at McDonald’s where I got to use the card of “tell me who your Commanding Officer (CO) is” time and time again.  And trying to get through Senior year in a school where on the first day some dude said, “Jesus, you must be so hot in those clothes!”.  I didn’t realize that Bath, ME was just the same as Shippensburg, PA.  Here’s your gershdern frenchfries jerk face.  Then…Porches.  Brunswick Maine.  

Because at 18 (which I could not WAIT for), I moved out of the house that was loving and caring and meant the word to me, but I needed to “rebel”.  So I did.  And lost RSDI.  And lost EVERY scholarship I gained with that 3.8 (almost kicked out, almost didn’t graduate, said f’you to all the free monies).  I didn’t ask for anything from them.  I got sick.  And thought Menthol cigarettes would heal me.  My rat died because the garage we were living wasn’t warm enough.  My favorite cat (vampire reference, blah blah BLAH) ran away……..and I should have followed him into the woods.  

Become me.  BA in Architecture, living alone, making shit happen.  Because…No one wants to disappoint their parents(?).  Because you never want to disappoint yourself.  EVER.  And at 18 I was making my way to $65,000/yr by placing stickers on CDs and tapes and an efficient manner!  …I had no idea.  

That’s all you need to know about me.

Here’s the other story:

18.  Didn't graduate because there was “too much pressure” from outside forces.  Got kicked out of one home.  Choices of….shelter……..or Panda’s home.  Haven't met the dog, so everything should be ohhhhhhkay!  I gave you a room and space to store your clothes (and a dog bite).  And towels. And said it was okay to “vape” OUTSIDE my house, even though you said you were 18 and you could do WHAT YOU WANT!!  I gave you everything and turned a blind eye.  You don’t have a job.  You don’t have any groceries (stop eating our food!!!).  You’re almost out of toiletries, and then there are the rules that were explained to you before you randomly moved into my guest room.

So here are the rules again:

You will make your bed.

You will buy your own groceries. (ADDENDUM: stop eating our food!!!!!!!!)

You will do your own dishes. 

You will wash your sheets every week.

You will do your own laundry.

Don’t touch my shit.  Ever.

Lock the doors when you leave.

And here’s my question.  Should I have been a part of this decision?  Should someone have sat down with me and said, “I know you never wanted kids, and there was a time that you wanted to foster a 15 yr. old boy, but is this what you really want….right now………..right.  now…..Now.  

And I’m alone tonight with Chris Isaak Pandora and writing stuff, so it seems ok right now.  Maybe.  If you eat ANY of my cheese sticks, Imma punch you in the throat neck.  SRSLY.  You’ve already gotten after my mayonnaise………..Girl got trained by mom who was possibly…nothing (tra-la-la)!!!!!!!!!    

I see you.  Get a job.  Live.  Life.  NOW!!!!!!

7/31/16

This is a venting post.  And you’ve heard it before from me, but SRSLY I need to do it again. 

I.  Am.  So.  Sick.  And.  Tired.  Of.  Your.  Phone.  All y’all.  (I’m included in this too, just in case you thought I was getting up on some horse that was way too tall for it’s own good).  I am tired of hanging out with you and realizing that the device in your hand is more important than the words that are coming out of my face.  I like to tell stories, just as EVERY SINGLE human being since the beginning of time did, and when I’m in the middle of one…you pick up your phone.  When I’m starting one, you pick up your phone.  Just as the story is about to end…f’ you, phone!!!  So, what is it?  What happened to actual human interaction?  Is there truly something so much more important on the other end of that interstellar bandwidth that takes you away from me every time?  Why is it when I explain a scenario that just happened, you have this massive, uncontrollable desire to look at that black rectangular magic maker?  Why is it that at the end of said narrative there is no reaction…because you haven’t honestly heard what I’ve said.  Silence.  And one is left alone in the parking lot, loading groceries, thinking, "Crap.  I was totes just talking to myself this whole time.”  And then you want to reach out and poke the other human in the gut just to make sure they’re real.  Because silence.  And nothingness.  And then frustration.  

No, I don’t need you to drop everything when I walk in the room (JK.  Give me a frackin’ hug, dammit).  No, I don’t need you to stop your business transactions.  No, I don’t need you to halt your life just for me.  But…….guys…..what happened?  Do you remember the website I told you about?  I thought you would really enjoy it…hehloo?  Do you remember the dresses I bought for summer the other day?  I thought you would be excited…hehloo?  Do you remember my tears when I was telling you a story about a child I met, because I thought it was inspirational…hehloo?  Do you remember…me?

Hello?

Irrelevant/Invisible Residence.  I’m sorry, she’s not available right now, may I take a message? 

…(Ps.  she’s prolly writing on a piece of PAPER right now!!!  WHA?!?!?).  Just leave a message.  (eye roll).

Perhaps it’s the fact that I’m 41 and I remember the times of the actual phone.  That one where you couldn’t stalk, stare at, fight with, debate with, “like”, “share”, flirt with, etc. from a box of “anonymity”.  Those times when you were taught that the most important number to know was -911-…BUT!!  Don’t ever dial it until the absolute disaster happens…yea.  Ok, mom.  You know I dialed that just to hear what happened on the other end, right???  …and then profusely apologized to the woman and explained (in a 7 year old way) exactly why I had dialed the emergency number: total mystery on the other side of this mustard colored pushbutton phone hanging on the wall that I can barely reach.  Side note:  first time I was called “hun”.  <3  

Regression.

Ah, shit.  Is THIS why you don’t listen anymore?!?!

Stupid bogs and my rules of not deleting anything that’s not relevant…[HRMPH].

What were we talking about???  Here.  Let me toss in some joke about how stupid I am in order to make you laugh…

Hehloo?

Oh.  That’s right.

The things and stuff happen where plans fall through, people go their separate ways, others get “tired”, dinner fails, drinks out-fizzle, movie dates become single dates, talking…subsides.  Conversation ceases. 

…and I spoke with someone once, in a restaurant and said, “I never want to be that couple over there, not speaking to each other, so thank you!!”  

Life has a weird way of punching you in the face.  Because YOU’RE NOT SPEAKING TO EACH OTHER ANYMORE!!!!!  

Guys!  WTF.  HAPPENED?!?!

6/22/16

Overheard in Portland, Maine (that may be copyrighted and stuff...sawreeee!!):

"I was really looking forward to seven days.  Seven days of happiness.  Seven days of not fighting, no exasperated sighs, no walking out, no slamming doors, no angry silence, no eye rolling, no glances at other women, no feeling judged, no(thing).  Just happy.  Just fun.  

It’s been three.  On the fourth there shall be all of the above."  

And why does she look forward to just seven?!?!  Why not 50 days?  Why not 10 years?!?!  What makes her need at least seven?  Is it because she’s only had a few in the past years?  Is it because she feels inadequate and unwanted?  Is it because she feels like her jokes aren’t funny, her hair isn’t perfect, her nails are dirty, she dresses “like a boy”, she has no conversation to give?  Why?!  

Just tell her why. 

I’ll be over here at the bar…sitting quietly and listening.    

6/22/16

I met a small human today (last week, and the week before).  She’s ADORABLE.  With ATTITUDE.  Attitude that is taught and actually concerns me.  Alt-so!  OMG!!!  HAI!!!  I missed you blog thingy.  

-What are you doing?!?!

-Working, babes!  Why?

-No you’re not!!!

-Yes, I am.

-No you’re not

-Yes……………I am!

-You don’t look like you’re working.

-That’s because I’m talking to you right now.

(tongue stick out).  By her, not ME!!!

-You’re stupid

(Panda has sad…)

-Why do you have that thing on your leg?  (knee brace)

-Because it hurts and this makes it feel better.

-How did you hurt it?

-I don’t know!  It just happens sometimes.

——fast forward from a ton of back and forth——

-I like it that you’re hurt, so I can make fun of you.

(Panda has sad…again)

So, she’s smart and engaging.  She’s beautiful in every way…except the interaction part.  And a part of me wants to steal her away.  To bring her home and teach her that, YES!!!  Voice your opinions!  YES!!!  Say what you want!!  YES!!  Be who you are!!!  …but I feel that who she is at this point is a parrot.  She is somehow mimicking what is said to her and she feels that it’s ok(?), expected(?), condoned(?), natural(?), socially acceptable(?), to speak to other humans as such.  Dear Tiny Human,  It’s NOT OKAY.  I know you need attention.  I know you need a hug.  I know you need someone to recognize that you are extremely smart and witty, but I can’t be that human for you.  I will slightly engage you each and every day.  I will tell you that I love your hair style/dress/socks/attitude/etc., but I CAN NOT do any more.  I wish I could, love.  I wish I could. 

11/18/14

Wanted:  Roommate

STAT.

$1000/month includes:

—ALL OF THIS AWESOME STUFFS!!!—

1. Roof over your head.
2. Heat
3. Hot water
4. Gas
5. Laundry
6. Electricity
7. Internets, which includes the World Wide Web!!!
8. Maybe a shared phone plan?
9. Yard
10. Fire pit
11. Storage
12. So.  Many.  CDs.  (Don’t f’n scratch them, man!!)
13. iPod dock for those other tunes
14. Your very own room!!!  With a full size bed (if needed)
15. Roaming freedom of the entire house.  That’s like 1250 sq. ft. (not including the dimly lit basement…where the washer and dryer are.)
16. Parking for 1-3 cars (outside…you shovel ‘em out though!)
17. Fully stocked kitchen.  By this I mean equipment and tools…I ain’t got much food, but you are welcome to eat my food because it’ll prolly go bad anyway.  Disclaimer:  Don’t.  Touch.  The.  Cheese Sticks.  EVER.  

$1000/month includes:

—ALL OF THIS…(ehem)…OTHER STUFFS!!—

1. Golden Retriever/Chow Chow mix that may or may not eat your face off.

2. Gangsta rap blasting at 9am or 1am…or Fleetwood Mac…or Bikini Kill…or Nickelback

3. Keeping all of your personal shiz in your room

4. Not touching any of my stuff unless otherwise authorized to.  

5. Quiet hours: 10-1(ish) depending on the day and my work schedule…because I may need a nap

6. Sharing these chores: mowing the lawn, raking, shoveling, etc.

7. Knowing that I will look in your room and be disappointed by the state of it.

8. Notes left by me to you accompanied by fun sparkly stickers!!!!  These may be passive aggressive or they may just be amazing notes to you!!!  …you’ll never know!!!!

9. Did I mention the dog?

10. Knowledge that on Saturday night there may be a lot of noise in the kitchen because we hoop and do headstands in the kitchen.  You’re welcome to join…otherwise get a white-noise machine.

11. I smoke, drink, and rabble rouse in the house.  Thassa mines!  I DO WHAT I WANT!!  As a side note, I’m also a wee bit OCD, so it’s clean and (usually) smells awesome…aka not of whiskey and cigarettes.

There might be something that I’ve forgotten…stay tuned.

7/18/14

(sigh)  It's July 18th and I just found out that Abraham has appealed the verdict from June 24th concerning the incident of harassment from May 3rd.  Sooooooooooo...yea.

We'll just keep fighting.  We got this!  #yellowcab

6/24/14

Annnnnnnnnnnd...WE WON!  

Portland suspends taxicab company's license